Come Join Me In The Rain

(originally posted on Twitter 14/04/18)

As I’ve highlighted before, a constructive, well mannered and thoughtful conversation was completely torn apart over last weekend, with further spats throughout the week.

The hate definitely won that one, shit huh? It really was going really well.

Undoubtedly, as the disaster that is the push for Self ID unfolds, this is going to happen time and time again. It’s not nice, but it’s important we learn to ride it out, absorb it, learn from it, and maintain our resolve, if we’re going to move the conversation forward.

No one ever said earning trust and acceptance was going to be easy, and ask yourself: Do feminists have reason to be distrustful of transwomen (no space)? Sadly, the answer is yes. You see, we all now fall under this ‘Trans Umbrella’, apparently.

I’ve never been comfortable with this; I’ve never been happy that transsexual and transgender are somehow lumped together, with the definition of the former being absorbed and obscured by the latter.

Transgender, however, is also used to describe an assortment of identities from transvestites, non-binaries, polygender, pangender, and various others….the list grows…
But they’re not transsexual: they have absolutely no intention of obtaining SRS – indeed, many seem curiously, if not sometimes alarming, very pleased with their parts – in stark contrast to transsexuals who cannot reconcile with theirs.

Within the transgender community a sinister movement has been allowed to take root and grow. It has used the uncertainty and isolation of many in the trans community to foment a wave of hyper sensitive indignation. Many are whipped into such a frenzy words and meaning become meaningless, supplanted by a toxic, narcissistic and misogynistic narrative that rightly has many women deeply worried.

And for as long as transsexuals continue to agree to be covered by this umbrella, you can expect to be viewed with the same suspicion as those using it to forward their agenda.

I don’t put myself under the Transgender Umbrella, and to all the transsexuals under there, and others sceptical about Self ID and the Trans-Lobby, I ask you to step out from under it a moment, come join me in the rain.

Like me, many of you have come to terms with, and accepted who and what we are. How many times did looking at yourself in the mirror and saying “you are what you are” as you sigh with resignation, get you out the door in the morning? We know what we’re not, and accept that! We accept that we’re as close as we’re ever going to get, and move on from there. I know I’m not a real woman, I’m a transwoman. We transition to make our lives liveable, then move on into the world and live it. But do we wonder about those who claim to speak on our behalf?

We seem to have taken our eye off the ball here. Before I go on I’d like to tell a bit of a story: I have a number of friends who are great guys: caring, loving, live and let live types – hell, they’re friends with me! Thing is, they’re in the Orange Lodge. One once complained he didn’t like it when people at the side of the road jeered them, shouted at them. He’s a nice guy, why are people like that? I reminded him that while he, as an individual, is a beautiful and kind young man, they don’t see Him, they see and react to the collective. It’s the collective message, narrative, attitude, behaviour, they rail against.

So what messages, narratives, attitudes and behaviours are coming from your ‘collective’, this ‘trans umbrella’? What do people see from outwith? Should women be concerned?

The message seems progressive enough: Self ID will make it easier for those to obtain the legal recognition of the gender they identify with. But scratch the surface and something deeply ugly can be seen.

For how many of us, have we received support and acceptance from the women in our lives, because we’ve ‘been through the process’? I have. That we’ve been through the process has granted us some space allowing others to get to know us better, understand us, and empathise with our struggles and challenges. This process is sacred to us.

But what happens if there is no process?

Self ID proposes to remove it all, and replace it with a “straightforward administrative process”. Take a moment and let that sink in. Who benefits from that? You? No, you don’t. Fetishistic and misogynistic men do.

These people have seen the protections and rights we have, and they fucking want it too, but they can’t go through the process: they’d get found out, and they certainly want to keep their junk. They want access to women and womanhood – their claims to out-women women are shocking and alarming. The narrative supporting all this suggests that no one has anything to fear, and any opposition is transphobia and hatred. Is this true? Can allowing Anyone to obtain legal recognition as the opposite sex really be safe? Eh, no!

They claim no one will fraudulently claim a trans identity to access vulnerable women, but this has already happened, several [update: many many] times.
I remember seeing a thread, 30+ tweets, each with 4 pics, with a brief narrative of each, detailing crimes against women perpetrated by a “trans woman”. I wish I could remember who posted it; I’m sure someone’ll recognise it – if you do, could you please link it in the comments? Not to mention the recent case with @Skepticat_UK still very fresh in our minds.

There are many safety concerns with Self ID: access to women’s shelters and refuges; the prison estate; records and statistics; access to scholarships, programs and shortlists in place to increase female representation; sex based protections; the list could actually go on..

Can it really be a good idea to open all these up to just ‘anyone who identifies as a woman’? What, I wonder, can their behaviour tell us about what to expect?

What does the open death and rape threats against concerned women tell us of their intent? What does it say about their attitude to these women? Many of whom have suffered the horrors of rape and DV – some even victims of FGM too. What does the “cotton ceiling” tell us of their attitude towards lesbians? The demand they open their sexuality to include penis, lest they be labelled TERFs and transphobes? What does the no-platforming and silencing of women’s groups tell us of their desire for open discourse and debate on these important issues?

This fantastic thread, from @fedupfemme, I believe illustrates much here, very well: (link:…

It all tells us quite a lot, really, well me anyway. It tells me that Self ID isn’t the progressive, well meaning piece of legislation it’s touted to be. To me it looks very much like the manifesto of a hegemonic cult set on the erasure of the female sex class, and an intent to supplant it with a gender class – which, of course, they would rule, ’cause men do ‘woman’ better, right?

Can you see why women are concerned?

Ask yourself, does any of this represent you? Do you identify with this attitude? These behaviours? I’m betting no. Do you wonder how they feel able to make the claims they do? How they can say trans people are safe? How they can say no one will fraudulently claim to be trans? I’ll tell you how: you.

The transsexual identity has been hijacked and its meaning increasingly diluted. They use your identity to legitimise their agenda.

Now I’ve never considered myself to be under this ‘trans umbrella’, but for as long as you stay under it, they’ll continue to use you for their own ends.

I need to go back now, others and I are working hard to build something new. But please, stand out in the rain a little longer. When the time comes, and it will, we will urge to join us – but please know, if you decide to go back under that umbrella, I can’t help you.


(special thanks to @womaninnate & @shushingcults)

edited 21/01/19

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