I, Transsexual (Part IV)

So what is ‘winning’, for us, gonna look like here? I mean, let’s face it, we have an absolute mountain to climb.

We do have tremendous support out there, much of it from the radfem and gender critical groups/people….but the landscape has changed, and we have to change too; we must support women and girls, and help defend their rights throughout this twisted war on them…

I said before, our lives generally consisted of doing what needed done, then getting on with it; as someone I know recently put it: transsexuals not only do adapt, but want to adapt into a balanced accommodation with society…. However, at the moment, this isn’t necessarily what many women are seeing; what they see is, from the same person: transgenders seem to carry most of their baggage with them, and want not to adapt themselves to fit in, but make the rest of the world adapt and validate their identity as it is….. We’ve been blindsided by the “transgender umbrella”, and we’re the only ones who can save our own skin in this….no one’s gonna do it for us, but many are prepared to help.

Sadly, this means we have to be far more visible than we’ve ever been before, and while this will necessarily come with risks, it can come with potentially great victories, and give us the space in society to have wins that are truly ours to be had…..it’s important to note here, when I talk of transsexuals, I mean all transsexuals… transmen are too often overlooked, and have been fairy quiet through all this, but their future is in just as much jeopardy. We are two too small groups individually, together we can become a….well a bigger very small group.

Right off the bat, we need to reclaim some language, and probably add some more. Over the course of the Gender War, language, and the use thereof, is going to be crucial, and we need our own. Now I get there are women out there who object even to ‘transwoman’ [no space], but back in my Twitter days I tried to open a discussion on this very subject, ye know, to see if there was an alternative we could all agree on….no one got involved, and the only person who did (a woman) told me not to bother, stick with what we’ve got and make it work….and if I had access to my Twitter I could prove it too….besides, ‘transwoman’ and ‘transman’ are in the OED already defined. We know and acknowledge that transwomen are a subset of males, and transmen of females; suggesting otherwise is counter productive….
Another word is ‘Transvestite’; as someone recently asked, “Where have all the transvestites gone?”…..and it’s a good question. I know some wonderful men who are transvestites, and they rock it! They own it!…..or they certainly did up until recently, at least….. “Transgender” has shown itself to be a linguistic parasite in all this…..also, and I know it’s a pejoritive, but “Trender”…..I’ll leave that one out there for now…..

No doubt the topic of third spaces will arise as time progresses, and this is an important conversation to have. I suspect the objection to third spaces largely comes from a visceral reaction to the thought of it….I know, I feel it: it’s because it feels very “othering”…. Well, we are kinda “other”, if you really think about it – if we want to cement our very small place in society, we’re gonna have to own that, and bollocks to everyone else….still, my only issue now is: who all believes they have the right to access such spaces?….. Questions over layouts, specific requirements etc, could all be hammered out….but let’s say we pull it off, could we maybe count that as a win?….

Sports is another one we’re gonna have to deal with, and there are solutions out there; I’ve thought of one I reckon could be readily [relatively] implemented across a wide number of sports and activities….I’m not gonna go into detail here, and there is a lot to be worked out, but it would mean we could have our sporting achievements, that are genuinely ours…why wouldn’t we want that?…

Think about STEM, literature, music, other art, philiosphy, politics,….whatever; if we proudly identify ourselves, can’t we record wins in all these areas?…..[Teacher to class] “…was invented by Bob Such’n’such, a prominent transman in the twenty twenties; he is also quoted as saying “blah de blah” of what/whoever”…you get the picture”; “The author, Sue Whitsherface, uses her perspective as a transsexual in that era to do something about whatever happened, blah de blah….” – can we not record wins like that? The only way we can really get them is to be more visible, and honest about who we are…..

And just one last one I’m gonna touch on here: children. Of all the conversations, this is the most important. Me personally, I want a proper end-to-end structure with exit points/strategies clearly worked in, and surgery no younger than, ideally, though possibly younger in potentially some certain circumstances, 21….. Again, there is much to be discussed. It is a delicate subject and believe it or not, all parties involved are gonna have to act like adults….shocker, I know, right?

All is not lost, yet, but it definitely will be if we don’t get off our arses….

Peace out, for now..

Seven.

I, Transsexual (Part III)

So what do we do now? how are we transsexuals, male and female, going to get through this? It’s gonna be tough, I can tell you that…

First, as I said before, we have to consider our older generations: those of us who transitioned decades ago, fought what had to be fought back then, and did their level best to assimilate quietly back into society, and did so without incident since. My heart goes out to them: many are scared, and I hope some sort of amnesty can be agreed; I’m certainly not going to be asking anything of them, other than for their support.

This fight is in the hands of my generation and below…. Some may question why they would, or indeed should: after all, it’s potentially risky as fuck, and we didn’t exactly start this whole shit show – we’re kinda victims in it all too……well, I’ll get to that…..

For any of this to work, it has to be done as part of, and within, a larger movement towards change – we know women want this, some men are coming round to this too, though many more need persuaded….we have our part to play in all this, and play it we must.

One of the biggest risks to transsexuals is the loss of access to health care, including hormone therapy and surgery. I’ve certainly seen a number of articles and posts appearing on my feed, in increasing frequency, more than suggesting that surgery isn’t the answer, it doesn’t help at all; it’s barbaric mutilation, purely elective etc; long term follow ups all show that statistically it has no benefit, and all those ‘Lost to follow up” are probably miserable…and on, and on….
But that is not the full picture: there are many of us who are more than happy with our outcomes, and rarely, if ever, see a specialist again once we’re done – fuck, no doubt I’ll be lost to follow up….maybe I’ll check in, but I really can’t be arsed…
Of course, this doesn’t detract from the very real problem that people for whom surgery isn’t right, are getting it, and the very real problems this creates in their lives. There are many detransitioners and it’s important we hear their stories: how else do we expect to be able to improve a service if we don’t do more to understand where it went wrong? These people need access to proper care and support, as do those for whom the surgery itself wasn’t successful, leaving them with lifelong complications; their stories need to be heard too.
I want to see these services improved, not removed. This current gender-ideology is pushing increasing numbers through the transition process; from children getting puberty blockers at first appointments, to large numbers of teenage girls rushing to get on “T”, the numbers are growing, putting services designed to accommodate a mere 5000 people, under huge strain. Underpinning this rise is a dangerous Affirmation Only policy that’s being promoted by the trans-lobby, but it’s important to understand that behind the trans-lobby and gender-ideology is a cabal of [mostly] white, straight men, who by and large have absolutely no intention of transition, surgical or otherwise. No, they just want to throw on a dress and a bit lippy (sometimes not even!), call it “social transition”, then trample all over women and their rights while using these kids’, transsexuals’, and Intersex people’s experiences to justify it….
Given we know the rates of desistance in children is exceptionally high, right now I wouldn’t consider it presumptuous to say we have a disaster on our hands. When all this eventually unfolds, how small will the voices of the already tiny number of us for whom it is right, be? And this isn’t even including the risk to access to surgery that Self ID brings, with its attempts to de-medicalise our condition with chants of “you don’t need dysphoria to be trans”…..make no mistake, the risk to the future generations of transsexuals is enormous!

Once again we find ourselves having to carve out spaces and opportunity in society – except this time the challenges facing us are far more daunting. Now, I can only talk from the perspective of a transwoman [incidentally, transwoman has a specific meaning: a male-to-female transsexual….trans woman (with a space) is not a real thing, so if you could all stop doing that, that’d be great, thanks], so can’t say too much on behalf of transmen [samesies on the definition], but their voices and views are important, and they will very much have their part to play in all this; I hope I’m able to encourage many to join me in protecting our joint future – theirs is in doubt too.

Only males can be transwomen; therefore, I am male. I’m also an adult. Technically, I am a man, and no amount of hormone replacement or surgery will actually change that….this is true of all transwomen whether we like it or not. The trouble is, the trans-lobby has people believing in the impossible: that we can literally change sex; that male can be, and is female, because they “feel it”….this is preposterous! And right now this “magicthink” is shaping policies that will ultimately not only have an apocalyptic effect on transsexuals, but once it’s done with us, the consequences for women and girls is unthinkably grim…

In Part II I highlighted that we have been weaponised by the trans-lobby, and by extension, patriarchy. If we are to turn this around, i.e. become a weapon against patriarchy, while attempting to secure our own future, then we have to take action! We must be seen to be separate and distinct from the transgenders [trenders?]. Where the transgenders were once able to point to us as justification for their actions and behaviours, we must now give women the opportunity to point to us in challenge of those actions and behaviours, and the very presence of those displaying them. It will be extremely difficult, and won’t be without incident, but the spaces and opportunities we carve out for ourselves must come from those of our natal sex….and yes, that does mean what you think it means…. You may wonder how this is going to help us in the long run…..well first, just watch all the misogynists, fetishists, incels, et al pack up their shit and disappear when access to female facilities/services is taken off the table; second, if access to facilities/services for the opposite sex is off the table, the chances are the only ones who’ll push for transition will be the ones for whom it is likely appropriate.
For transwomen, this could well be very dangerous – I’ve had a few dodgy moments myself; thankfully on one occasion there was a male friend in the toilets with me at the time…

As previously mentioned, this is only really going to work within a larger movement towards change. Toxic gender roles and norms need to go, and that change needs to be visible across all aspects of society – for example, are we really gonna tell boys and men it’s ok to wear dresses, heels, make up, and still be a boy/man, but then expect them in a [trouser] suit and tie in the office because ‘male’, for example?…… With initiatives like Let Toys be Toys, and Let Clothes be Clothes, can we really continue to expect dress standards based on sex? There’s a whole lot of deconstructing of gender to be done, and I’d like to think we will play an important part in doing just that.
Discussions across many groups need to be had to determine how to proceed, particularly if we are to do this as a united front of feminists, gender critical allies, transsexuals, and the emerging men’s groups pushing back on toxic gender ideology. There’s a lot to be hammered out, but if we are able to successfully break down the gender barriers, and everyone is free to express themselves, and pursue interests/ambitions/careers as they please, then a future where transsexuals use the facilities of their natal sex doesn’t sound so scary; it’s the getting there…. furthermore, in such an environment, transsexuals will be easier to identify: where gender expression is open and free to everyone – where pink, hair, dresses, makeup are seen as just much as ‘boy’ things as they are ‘girl’ things, and blue, dirt, football and cars are seen as just as much as ‘girl’ things as they are ‘boy’ things – the only ones seeking surgical transition will be the ones experiencing incongruence with their actual sex [genitals], rather than the societal expectations on them because of their sex….I am very much of the opinion that even if we are able to lift the shackles of gendered expectations from society as described, there will still be those pursuing transition; I understand many out there believe such a society will “cure” society of transsexualism…..I disagree, and if under these circumstances there is still people who want to transition, then, surely, our critics must agree there is something else going on… see where I’m going with that?…

So, back to the question of why would or should we. Well I expect many transsexuals out there, like me, have often wondered that if everyone would just give us a chance, believe us, and in us a little, then we might just be able to provide the middle ground needed to heal and mend this rift between women and men…..if they would just give us a moment, and accept that maybe we have something to say, and offer, we can help bring about peace between the sexes – possibly help bring an end to this seemingly perpetual war….
Sadly, we’re still not there, and the progress that had been made has been set back decades thanks to the trans-lobby. So now is the time. We have no choice. If we believe we can help, we must step forward. We must stand tall and be counted, no more scurrying into the shadows never to be seen or heard from – that road leads to ruin: just look at the situation we find ourselves in now. Our voices must be heard, and we must be visible: how can we expect to gain any traction with cementing our place in society if no one ever sees us? As difficult as it’ll be, we must step beyond the shame we feel at who and what we are, the shame that keeps us hidden, and be bold! We must confront our fears, so future generations don’t have to; step out and proudly show the world who we are. Fight for our rights, but within the scope of our sex classes. We are transsexuals, and that shouldn’t be anything to be ashamed of, but if we want a better future for the transsexuals of tomorrow, then stand side by side and shoulder to shoulder with women, work with them, and give them the ammunition they need to combat the gender madness that’s threatening not just their spaces, but their hard won rights.

This, as I say, ain’t gonna be easy. I’ve still got quite a bit to do, but I’m getting there; I just hope I’m able to persuade enough to join me when the time comes…this is bigger than our immediate preferences, and very much an emergency…

Peace ✌

Seven

Come Join Me In The Rain

(originally posted on Twitter 14/04/18)

As I’ve highlighted before, a constructive, well mannered and thoughtful conversation was completely torn apart over last weekend, with further spats throughout the week.

The hate definitely won that one, shit huh? It really was going really well.

Undoubtedly, as the disaster that is the push for Self ID unfolds, this is going to happen time and time again. It’s not nice, but it’s important we learn to ride it out, absorb it, learn from it, and maintain our resolve, if we’re going to move the conversation forward.

No one ever said earning trust and acceptance was going to be easy, and ask yourself: Do feminists have reason to be distrustful of transwomen (no space)? Sadly, the answer is yes. You see, we all now fall under this ‘Trans Umbrella’, apparently.

I’ve never been comfortable with this; I’ve never been happy that transsexual and transgender are somehow lumped together, with the definition of the former being absorbed and obscured by the latter.

Transgender, however, is also used to describe an assortment of identities from transvestites, non-binaries, polygender, pangender, and various others….the list grows…
But they’re not transsexual: they have absolutely no intention of obtaining SRS – indeed, many seem curiously, if not sometimes alarming, very pleased with their parts – in stark contrast to transsexuals who cannot reconcile with theirs.

Within the transgender community a sinister movement has been allowed to take root and grow. It has used the uncertainty and isolation of many in the trans community to foment a wave of hyper sensitive indignation. Many are whipped into such a frenzy words and meaning become meaningless, supplanted by a toxic, narcissistic and misogynistic narrative that rightly has many women deeply worried.

And for as long as transsexuals continue to agree to be covered by this umbrella, you can expect to be viewed with the same suspicion as those using it to forward their agenda.

I don’t put myself under the Transgender Umbrella, and to all the transsexuals under there, and others sceptical about Self ID and the Trans-Lobby, I ask you to step out from under it a moment, come join me in the rain.

Like me, many of you have come to terms with, and accepted who and what we are. How many times did looking at yourself in the mirror and saying “you are what you are” as you sigh with resignation, get you out the door in the morning? We know what we’re not, and accept that! We accept that we’re as close as we’re ever going to get, and move on from there. I know I’m not a real woman, I’m a transwoman. We transition to make our lives liveable, then move on into the world and live it. But do we wonder about those who claim to speak on our behalf?

We seem to have taken our eye off the ball here. Before I go on I’d like to tell a bit of a story: I have a number of friends who are great guys: caring, loving, live and let live types – hell, they’re friends with me! Thing is, they’re in the Orange Lodge. One once complained he didn’t like it when people at the side of the road jeered them, shouted at them. He’s a nice guy, why are people like that? I reminded him that while he, as an individual, is a beautiful and kind young man, they don’t see Him, they see and react to the collective. It’s the collective message, narrative, attitude, behaviour, they rail against.

So what messages, narratives, attitudes and behaviours are coming from your ‘collective’, this ‘trans umbrella’? What do people see from outwith? Should women be concerned?

The message seems progressive enough: Self ID will make it easier for those to obtain the legal recognition of the gender they identify with. But scratch the surface and something deeply ugly can be seen.

For how many of us, have we received support and acceptance from the women in our lives, because we’ve ‘been through the process’? I have. That we’ve been through the process has granted us some space allowing others to get to know us better, understand us, and empathise with our struggles and challenges. This process is sacred to us.

But what happens if there is no process?

Self ID proposes to remove it all, and replace it with a “straightforward administrative process”. Take a moment and let that sink in. Who benefits from that? You? No, you don’t. Fetishistic and misogynistic men do.

These people have seen the protections and rights we have, and they fucking want it too, but they can’t go through the process: they’d get found out, and they certainly want to keep their junk. They want access to women and womanhood – their claims to out-women women are shocking and alarming. The narrative supporting all this suggests that no one has anything to fear, and any opposition is transphobia and hatred. Is this true? Can allowing Anyone to obtain legal recognition as the opposite sex really be safe? Eh, no!

They claim no one will fraudulently claim a trans identity to access vulnerable women, but this has already happened, several [update: many many] times.
I remember seeing a thread, 30+ tweets, each with 4 pics, with a brief narrative of each, detailing crimes against women perpetrated by a “trans woman”. I wish I could remember who posted it; I’m sure someone’ll recognise it – if you do, could you please link it in the comments? Not to mention the recent case with @Skepticat_UK still very fresh in our minds.

There are many safety concerns with Self ID: access to women’s shelters and refuges; the prison estate; records and statistics; access to scholarships, programs and shortlists in place to increase female representation; sex based protections; the list could actually go on..

Can it really be a good idea to open all these up to just ‘anyone who identifies as a woman’? What, I wonder, can their behaviour tell us about what to expect?

What does the open death and rape threats against concerned women tell us of their intent? What does it say about their attitude to these women? Many of whom have suffered the horrors of rape and DV – some even victims of FGM too. What does the “cotton ceiling” tell us of their attitude towards lesbians? The demand they open their sexuality to include penis, lest they be labelled TERFs and transphobes? What does the no-platforming and silencing of women’s groups tell us of their desire for open discourse and debate on these important issues?

This fantastic thread, from @fedupfemme, I believe illustrates much here, very well: (link: https://twitter.com/fedupfemme/status/930279352775921664…twitter.com/fedupfemme/sta

It all tells us quite a lot, really, well me anyway. It tells me that Self ID isn’t the progressive, well meaning piece of legislation it’s touted to be. To me it looks very much like the manifesto of a hegemonic cult set on the erasure of the female sex class, and an intent to supplant it with a gender class – which, of course, they would rule, ’cause men do ‘woman’ better, right?

Can you see why women are concerned?

Ask yourself, does any of this represent you? Do you identify with this attitude? These behaviours? I’m betting no. Do you wonder how they feel able to make the claims they do? How they can say trans people are safe? How they can say no one will fraudulently claim to be trans? I’ll tell you how: you.

The transsexual identity has been hijacked and its meaning increasingly diluted. They use your identity to legitimise their agenda.

Now I’ve never considered myself to be under this ‘trans umbrella’, but for as long as you stay under it, they’ll continue to use you for their own ends.

I need to go back now, others and I are working hard to build something new. But please, stand out in the rain a little longer. When the time comes, and it will, we will urge to join us – but please know, if you decide to go back under that umbrella, I can’t help you.

Seven.

(special thanks to @womaninnate & @shushingcults)

edited 21/01/19

So, I don’t have a GRC.

(originally posted on Twitter 23/03/18)

So, I don’t have a GRC, shocker, right? Not really. My passport and driving licence are changed, and they’re all I need to get around. You could argue I could get my birth certificate changed, but why would I do that? Firstly, I’m a bit of a historical puritan. A healthy male child was born – yeah ok, there were/are a few anomalies, but otherwise, yeah. Secondly, it in and of itself represents a legal fiction anyway, so who cares?
The GRC is a misnomer: you want to change gender: change your clothes, modify your behaviour and your mannerisms, and BOOM! Job done. My issue was with my sex, NOT my gender. Call it a Sex Recognition Certificate and I’d be interested. For me, the RLE, the psych evals etc, leading up to, and including surgery, was a rite of passage. This is what society expected – this is how I fulfilled my burden of proof. The surgery has been a huge success for me, and I’ve never looked back. I understood the need for all this – checks and balances.

Self ID turns this on its head.

Predatory males already abuse this and slip through: to suggest that pushing the checks and balances back ’til AFTER any “Event” won’t encourage more is a bit naive.

So how did we get here: how has this been allowed to happen? Language, that’s how. Since the GRA.

There’s a lot of linguistic manipulation going on: the conflation of sex and gender from the GRA; the obliteration of women’s language accompanying Self ID (if FGM being called ‘transphobic’ didn’t Peak you, dunno what to tell you, you’re a fucking moron). Another piece of language impacted is ours, transsexuals’. At some point, don’t know when and don’t know why, the term ‘transsexual’ became “Outdated”. So what happened? I reckon it was co-opted, absorbed into the more nebulous term ‘transgender’, then deliberately pushed into obscurity by the TRAs. But why? Well, again I reckon, it was simply to reinforce the conflation between sex and gender.

Their control over language is critical to their cause [cult] – just look at what happens when you challenge the narrative – the case of @ThePosieParker should be ample in highlighting this. A quick one on trans kids: I find it odd that, after centuries (maybe?), doctors came to the sensible conclusion of adopting a ‘wait and see’ approach with intersex kids. But a kid picks up the “wrong toy”, wants the “wrong clothes” and they’re scooped up and transed before they can say “But I like the tractor too…”, or something.

The sad truth is there are many transsexuals involved with the TRAs. TSs are generally mentally quite fragile, particularly early in transition. TRAs are able manipulate this fragility to foster a deep, albeit misguide, indignation: they point at what GC fem’s say – “See what they think of you. See, they’re trying to erase you. This is war”. The obfuscation of the term ‘transsexual’ prevents them from separating themselves out of it……..”Nah mate, that’s YOU they’re talking about”.

Self ID is not only toxic, it’s dangerous. The very fact it’s essentially being forced through with dissent heavily punished, should be enough to raise the hairs on your, well, everywhere. Violence and intimidation surrounds Self ID, fuelled by some of the most sickening misogyny I’ve ever had the misfortune to encounter. Women see this, as do many TSs and TGs.

Women are rising, and thanks to the efforts of Venice Allen, now suspended ffs, 
@Womans_Place_UK, and a great many other radfems many more women and men are becoming aware of the true nature, scale, scope, and extent of the erasure of women as a sex class, that will become possible should Self ID be fully implemented.

What I believe we need now, is a cohesive, united, transsexual and ally front/group/thing. Across twitter I have, albeit it somewhat slowly, encountered more and more TSs, and TGs, who are also deeply worried about the implications of Self ID. Our affinity is with women, we feel connected to women, and we experience a largely peaceful life thanks to the good grace OF WOMEN! Understandably, women, and men, who see the assault on them, coming on the horizon, are pushing back, hard. Sometimes their language can seem harsh, but actually, I’ve found many radfems to be the warmest, and most inclusive people. But we [TSs&A] need to do more.

We’re genuinely small in number, and we’re quite dispersed, I think. Moreover, many TS support networks are tied up in “their” shit, we need something new. The formats #waronwomen and Womans Place UK used worked really well, something similar could be done.
We need something to get behind, to unite our efforts and give us direction; @sushingthecult previously suggested #takebacktheT, possibly that. There are so many like us out there, lost and in need of some beacon that tells them they’re not alone – @dad_gc sent one my way earlier

We are small, but we must make our presence big, work with our radfems sisters to bring and end to this madness. Bring about a platform where we take back control of our language, prevent women’s language being co-opted, absorbed, then discarded, just like ours was. I have a neo-vagina, women have vaginas. There is nothing “female” about a penis…..that’s why I got rid of mine.

I have no idea how to bring this about: I’m not well resourced nor well connected. Suggestions are welcome, and the sooner this gets underway, the better.

Ideally this would be up and running, and ideally done(ish) before schools go back after summer.

So yeah, that’s me, just in time, it’s still tomorrow…

edited 21/01/19